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As I stepped off the plane after about 24 hours of airport hopping and flying, first from Edinburgh to London, then to Singapore and finally on to Brisbane, I felt calm, grounded and content. An inner sense came over me that for the first time in a long while, I wasn’t just thinking confidently, I was deeply experiencing confidence.

It’s hard to explain.  I’ve never experienced a feeling like this before. I didn’t just sense something different, I was different.

Three years ago, I needed all the resilience I could muster to get through what I would describe as a personal, financial and business identity crisis – a painful time of transition.

This difficult period came after a previous two years of personal learning and growth, many breakdowns, breakthroughs and spaces, where it felt like time stood still.

A total of five years.

This was interesting to me.  Shouldn’t the first three years put an end to all crisis? It reminded me that I am not infallible. I wondered what this meant for my future.

Growth looked like – tossing and turning, intense tingling in my body, a shaking in my brain, panic, sadness, regretting, stewing over the past and present and fear for the future.

At times I experienced confusion followed by a blunt jolt, then immediate and deep learning. At other times I was full of excitement, determination, and ambition.

If I’d turned away from or fought against the waves of my embodied emotional experiences, avoiding the darkness at every opportunity, I feel certain I would not have experienced what I now know to be a major and necessary breakthrough in my life.  I had to peel back one layer at a time.

I call this my time of healing.

Transition is inevitable – in many ways we transition every day.  The conversation is not to avoid or push through transition, and in particular a major transition, but to ask the question; what’s important to be taken care of during this time?

Some of my opinions…

  • Ride the waves
  • Feel safe
  • Maintain your dignity
  • Be true to yourself
  • Allow it to take as long as it will take
  • Peel back one layer at a time
  • Find caring, supportive people who can offer some support and a safe space to land

This is a two-part blog.

Here in Part One I offer ‘Six points to consider about transitioning’

I’m dedicating Part Two to ‘Maintaining Dignity’


  1. Transition Won’t Be Forced

The entire time I was working toward the overseas trip, I had this constant inkling in my heart that it was crucial.

The urge to learn about my heritage and a small part of the world delivered the emotional experience I was looking for.

Life doesn’t just throw experiences at you. You create them. I sat grounded and present in each experience as we hopped from country to country.

During the previous five years I developed a certain sensibility toward being present and accepting each experience as it unfolds. Observing it as an observer – not as the person in the story. This learning didn’t just happen without pain. It was a breakthrough that happened along a bumpy road with lots of potholes.

Events happen, but our experiences of events are interpretations and they have a