I was sitting in my office staring out the window, and I heard this in my silent conversation:
The last few months have been really hard
As the words floated around me I felt them impact my entire body, which was now feeling really heavy. I took a moment to think about what I’d silently said.
What did it mean?
There was this sense of rumination. I felt stuck to my chair, frozen in time, not moving, reflecting, and procrastinating about the future.
These experiences come and go throughout our lives, but its the silent conversations that we should listen out for, because they’re the ones that impact us the most, especially when we don’t notice them.
In my silent conversations, I continually believed I wasn’t enough.
When an experience like this comes, we must assess the story, the individual words, and their meaning, and dispute the negative opinions we’re silently saying about ourselves. So often I notice women hold these negative self opinions that they treat as facts, and 100% of the time there is evidence to suggest they are not factual at all.
We have a relationship with the words we use.
In order to shift your relationship to failure, I invite you to clearly observe your silent conversations, and how the words you use might be impacting your future possibilities. Don’t let these silent conversation continually run in the background without challenging them.
The words, the statements, the feelings and bodily sensations that accompany them are getting in the way of you creating what you want in life.
The bottom line is, this can change. You can shift your relationship with failure by understanding it better and challenging your words and thoughts.
In this post, we’re going to discuss how to shift your relationship with failure, and how closely observing our language can help us shift to different ways of thinking, and write a success story instead.
What’s Your Relationship with Failure?
I can’t count the conversations I’ve heard that start with something like; “I’m scared I might fail” or “I’ve failed again!”
What women are really claiming here is that they got something wrong, and that means they’ve failed. When we make these types of statements and claims, we also embody them. Feel what it feels like to you through your body.
The word becomes us and defines