Living a self-authoring life means relying on and trusting in your intuition, voicing your own concerns and following your own heart and soul… rather than handing over your authority to anyone else.
Humans do strive for this but that doesn’t remove the insidiousness that we often give others a stronger voice than our own. Perhaps searching to make self-driven choices and choosing what freedom means to us makes us more acute listeners to the messages we’re fed.
When we are faced with judgments and opinions at epidemic proportions, before we are aware of it, we can be pulled away from listening to our own intuitive sense. The world is complex now. Where we once would have listened to our family or tight-knit community, we are now exposed to judgments and opinions well beyond our front doors. Global connectedness that in times gone by many have dreamed about, for all it’s good, has a downside.
As a human species living in the complexity of language, we are so quick to judge and advise on our opinions… and we state them as though they are the truth. In such a disruptively noisy world is it any wonder we struggle to find our own equilibrium, our heart and soul’s centre and a place to safely land – a place where we can trust the safety of our own being.
Perhaps the trick, the key, or an idea – however you choose to language it – may be to find a way to give others a voice without giving them authority.
This in itself is not easy, however, it is doable. But it’s going to take an acute observation of who we are giving authority to. Observing people who consider themselves as authorities over us – holders of ‘truth’ – is not as easy as it sounds, but perhaps it is a starting point to self-authoring. Widening the lens through which we currently interpret how we listen and what we listen to, is maybe the single most important action any of us take.
As I recently began to shift into a self-authoring level of existence, I began to observe this judgement and opinion phenomenon like it was a beacon in the night. My view began to expand and I noticed that what I was listening to was much more than opinions. It (the entire phenomenon of stating things as though they are the truth) was and still is a demand for obedience. Its route is concern and fear.
People Judge And Share To Serve Their Concerns
Humans are concernful human beings. It comes naturally to humans to take care of the things that concern us and matter most to us. If in some way what matters most to me is making sure you listen to what I think matters and do what I think you should do, I’m likely going to make my opinion heard. On some level, every person on the planet does this. I’m doing it right now… I’m taking care of what matters most to me by giving women something to think about, putting myself out there as an authority on living a self-authored life.
Why? What matters most to me is women relinquishing self-doubt, trusting their intuition so they can take a leap of faith toward a self-empowered life as opposed to giving others authority to hold their truth.
How do we observe and make meaning of our own personal world as a basis for living a joyful and satisfactory life? And how do we avoid getting caught up in the pitfalls of listening to someone’s ‘truth’ and demand for obedience? In my opinion, the most important step forward is to gauge how you listen.
Women Listening And Sharing
Women innately share stories, experiences and support one another through thick and thin. They are really good at giving advice and sharing their concerns for people they love and care for. It is a wonderful gift and the reason why they listen so intently to other peoples’ thoughts and opinions.
Therefore if we want to self-author, it is in conversations that women must listen for and observe the demand for obedience. I believe we miss the signs and I don’t think we necessarily want to stop this conversational act when it continues to serve us. We listen this way when we haven’t yet granted ourselves permission to devise and live by our own standards – and when we don’t trust our own plan.
When we’re the person giving advice, we can only ever interpret the situation from our own frame of reference… and rarely if ever give consideration to the context of the other person’s life. We don’t see that by telling someone how it is, de-legitimises them. It takes them out of the driver’s seat. For that split moment, we become the author of their life. Because women are so innately good at this, we as women also look for this type of support from others. So often giving others the authority to tell us how things should be for us, we therefore give away our right to self-author.
If you’re allowing others to be the author of your life, now is the time to tune into what you’re doing as a means for taking back your own authority to self-author your life.
Intuitive learning supports my body and soul. Time and time again I have come to observe my body is a safe place to land. I rely upon it most when I’m questioning my own judgement, second-guessing my decisions and feeling confused. It’s the first place I go to whenever things feel out of balance. Each time I come back to my body, no matter where I started from, I land in a much happier place. I have to take my body with me wherever I go, so why not utilise it for it’s intuitive and supportive nature?
Listening intuitively brings a deeper kind of learning that no one else has access to.
You have experienced your whole life through your body, with your body and in your body. If there is any truth, the holder of your ‘truth’ is your body and your intuition – at soul level. Tapping into your body intuitively as a source of learning your own truth is a powerful way of observing what you want your life to look like. It will enable you to hold others’ judgments, opinions and standards lightly so you don’t become trapped by their ‘truth’.
Observing Your Way Of Being
Another way to approach intuitive learning is learning from your way of being. From an ontological interpretation, your way of being is made up as three interrelated parts of human existence: language (speaking and listening), emotions (moods and feelings), and body (your physical being). Your way of being shapes how you perceive and interact with the world.
At the heart of you